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May 28, 2019BY: Margaretha L. Gravett
IN: Divorce and Money

Money, Money, Money……

Abba’s hit song Money, Money, Money has been called the gold diggers’ anthem, and with good reason.  Sadly, the persona is mistaken in surmising that “[it] is always sunny in the rich man’s world.”  Rich or poor, anyone who has ever experienced the pain of a break-up knows that money cannot fix broken hearts.  Ironically, decisions about […]

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Wedding rings stacked upon a divorced agreement.

Congratulations—you’re getting married! It’s a happy time. Lots of details to plan for the big day—perhaps it will be a destination wedding? Hawaii, or Nevis? Or the lush Hudson Valley? You dream of your life together, the love that feels endless, the kindness and respect with which you treat each other.  Then, suddenly, it arrives […]

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Woman using meditation to help deal with the stress of divorce.

One of the most powerful tools in processing your divorce is pausing. Divorce is chaotic; your world is turned upside down. Pausing promotes balance and renewal, which is essential in helping you move forward. The collaborative divorce process is structured to accommodate pauses as part of the process and provides a safe space to work […]

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One of the biggest tasks in divorce is deciding how, when and where to establish separate residences.  Many factors are at play: whether one person will remain in the home or whether it will be sold (or vacated if it is a rental); if there are children what the access schedule will be; the cost […]

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Feb 14, 2019BY: Jeff Zimmerman
IN: Collaborative Divorce

It Looks Like Anger, But Is It?

One or the primary emotions felt by people who are getting divorced is anger. People get enraged, say hurtful things, and are critical and blameful. Such hostility is very common. It can go on for years and seems to not easily burn out. So what fuels it? Anger can be called “a cover-up emotion”. It […]

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  On December 7, 2017, Pauline Tesler, Esq., a California lawyer who has been a pioneer in collaborative divorce practice, gave a presentation before the New York Association of Collaborative professionals entitled “The Art and Craft of Deep Peace.” During that presentation, Pauline shared Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs (“Maslow’s Pyramid”).  In the context of a […]

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Clients ask me sometimes how I manage the stress of a divorce practice.  Listening and understanding the unique concerns and interests of my clients while navigating the complex emotions of divorce is an important foundation of my work. While I remain passionate about transforming how families resolve conflict, it can be exhausting.  Here are some […]

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  One of the benefits of Collaborative divorce is the team approach to problem solving and support. I am often asked something along the lines: “How do I know that the assembled team will work together for my benefit and not just step on each other’s toes, slow things down, or waste my money?” While […]

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Jan 23, 2018BY: Margaret A. Nicholson
IN: Collaborative Divorce

Assumptions

If you google the word “Assumption”, you will find two definitions: 1) “a thing that is accepted as true or as certain to happen, without proof” 2) “the action of taking or beginning to take power or responsibility”. In the practice of collaborative divorce, assumptions are an integral part of the process. An assumption can […]

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Dec 12, 2017BY: Jeff Zimmerman
IN: Children and Divorce

Divorce: Who Is It About?

Divorce is one of the most stressful and difficult times. Your whole life may seem upside down and in chaos. You may have serious concerns about whether and how you and your children will be ok, and what the future will be like. Your spouse may be angry, hostile or withdrawn, and may be far […]

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