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  On December 7, 2017, Pauline Tesler, Esq., a California lawyer who has been a pioneer in collaborative divorce practice, gave a presentation before the New York Association of Collaborative professionals entitled “The Art and Craft of Deep Peace.” During that presentation, Pauline shared Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs (“Maslow’s Pyramid”).  In the context of a […]

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Clients ask me sometimes how I manage the stress of a divorce practice.  Listening and understanding the unique concerns and interests of my clients while navigating the complex emotions of divorce is an important foundation of my work. While I remain passionate about transforming how families resolve conflict, it can be exhausting.  Here are some […]

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  One of the benefits of Collaborative divorce is the team approach to problem solving and support. I am often asked something along the lines: “How do I know that the assembled team will work together for my benefit and not just step on each other’s toes, slow things down, or waste my money?” While […]

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Jan 23, 2018BY: Margaret A. Nicholson
IN: Collaborative Divorce

Assumptions

If you google the word “Assumption”, you will find two definitions: 1) “a thing that is accepted as true or as certain to happen, without proof” 2) “the action of taking or beginning to take power or responsibility”. In the practice of collaborative divorce, assumptions are an integral part of the process. An assumption can […]

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Dec 12, 2017BY: Jeff Zimmerman
IN: Children and Divorce

Divorce: Who Is It About?

Divorce is one of the most stressful and difficult times. Your whole life may seem upside down and in chaos. You may have serious concerns about whether and how you and your children will be ok, and what the future will be like. Your spouse may be angry, hostile or withdrawn, and may be far […]

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One of the most frequent questions I get asked as a psychologist, both in my work as a collaborative team member and as a therapist, is how to talk to children about divorce. While there is no simple straightforward answer to the question, there are a few basic rules that parents can follow.  One is […]

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Nov 15, 2017BY: MaryEllen Linnehan
IN: Collaborative Law

Is Collaborative Divorce Right For Me?

You’ve made the difficult, complicated, often painful decision to divorce. The question now is how you will move forward:  how you will protect your children, ensure financial stability for you and your family, and preserve important relationships. How will you work through the emotional, legal and financial decisions? Importantly, how will you structure your divorce […]

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Almost every new client tends to ask the same question in the initial call and meeting, and the answer tends to be quite confusing for lay-people to understand:  What kind of agreement do I want at the end of my collaborative divorce process?  The answer is:  it depends upon what you want to accomplish!  To […]

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Sep 18, 2017BY: Melissa Goodstein
IN: Dealing with Divorce

A Recipe For A Better Divorce

Step 1: Work with your spouse and not against your spouse. Your relationship as husband and wife may be ending however you both created this family and if you have children you will need to work together as co parents; Step 2: Select a process such as either mediation or collaborative divorce to negotiate the […]

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Sep 6, 2017BY: Ken Novenstern
IN: Collaborative Law

Why I Chose Collaborative Divorce

My wife told me she was considering a divorce on 7/31/09 (for ease of reference I will refer to her as my wife, although she is now my former wife). I was devastated. I knew what a divorce entailed and was filled with dread. I could not comprehend a life outside of my marriage, without […]

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